Call from New Yorker.

Ok. Best to make reversible errors
I've written note for exit strategy 1. Not going to send for few days.
Going to treat it all as a game till I maybe see her in Beijing and out of character ignore and look past her bad behavior.
Best to stop obsessing.

unclear if you meant you ve written notes to yourself re exit or a note you were thinking of sending - BAD FORM if latter. you both have still not agreed the rules of the game. so difficult to play . you have laid out - this is what i want. . but actually, how it would work, and what her freedoms are. could be . yours.. are essential to the plan. I think much of this is your uncertainty and not hers. sorry. and yours is infectious

It was latter. Why bad form. Supposed to be face to face?

this is only the first quarter of the game. if you call a time out, its on the field and done with dignity, you cant retreat into the locker room and send a note to the opposing side. in the next quarter she will appreciate whatever you've said with respect and founded on strength. you care very much for this person. you might want to demonstrate that. a note does the very opposite. . its like trump firing comey. :)

Hmmm.
I think sometimes written communication shows seriousness of thought but see your point

coming from you -- not mutually exclusive

?..

you can be both thoughtful and face to face

That is true.
Interesting. I take a serious note from someone as a deed not words.

last i looked ( sic), you do not have ovaries.

I hear you.